Thanksgiving and Santorum

By , November 30, 2013 12:58 am

It's easy to let other people live their own lives.  Try it sometime.

It’s easy to let other people live their own lives. Try it sometime.

My wife and I have spent that last 4 or 5 Thanksgivings with my brother and his family at the home of a lesbian couple we know. This year there were 5 couples – 3 were heterosexual and 2 were gay – a male couple and a female couple. All the couples had kids in attendance. My son Zach was the youngest kid there and the oldest was probably 19 or so.

These gatherings have come to be some of my favorite holiday events. I’m very close with my brother. The couple hosting these Thanksgiving dinners are just great people. There is warmth, family, and lots of laughs. It is a group of people that are choosing to spend this holiday together and have created an unspoken tradition. At dinner I hijacked the toast to express my gratitude for being invited to their home for all these years.

I wanted to write this post as just a “hey, I had a great Thanksgiving” sort of update. I had no intention of mentioning that some of the couples were gay because honestly it was unremarkable to me and my kids. The word “gay” was not mentioned on the ride to dinner or back from dinner. I just wanted to write a quick remembrance of another really enjoyable Thanksgiving. Until tonight when I watched a recent episode of the Colbert Report that had Rick Santorum as a guest.

I am socially very liberal and fiscally pretty conservative. For me gay rights are a bit of a litmus test. I consider gay rights to be one of the most important civil rights issues of our time. It is a very very very simple matter of equal rights and fairness to me. I fully support your right to not be gay and fully oppose anything that tries to deny rights to gay people.

A few years ago we joined the Middleboro Unitarian Universalist church. There are quite a number of gay members. One of the things that attracted me to the UU’s was tolerance. They accept whatever religious beliefs you have(or don’t have) and are tolerant of other lifestyles. Tolerant is actually the wrong word. Fully accepting and welcoming would be more like it.

So tonight I saw Rick Santorum on Colbert. He reiterated his belief that marriage should be defined as being between a man and a woman and that gay couples should not have this right. Santorum was plugging his new movie studio and test the waters for a 2016 presidential run. He is one of the de-facto front runners due to his strong showing in 2012.

He is also the living embodiment of all that is wrong with the Republican party.

You cannot spend time with a great family – who happens to be gay – and seriously believe that they are some sort of abomination against God. As long as the GOP is elevating people like Santorum – they are doomed in the national arena.

So I wanted to just tell you that I had a great Thanksgiving and had no intention of talking about gay rights. Blame Rick Santorum for being such an intolerant numbskull that I was force to speak up.

2 Responses to “Thanksgiving and Santorum”

  1. Mary Stone says:

    That’s the thing for me as well, and I did not need to have several gay friends (which I do) in order to understand it: If the “married” state is recognized by local/state/national government (which it is) and if that state confers certain rights/privileges/responsibilities on those within it, which are recognized by the govt. at any level (which it does), then to deny access to those rights/privileges/responsibilities to one group of people on the basis of some arbitrary characteristic that they share, is simply discrimination. Discrimination is wrong, therefore I support marriage equality. That to me is an entirely separate matter from whatever religious significance/sacramentality you wish to attach to the coupled state. This is simply a civil rights issue to me. Always has been, always will be.

  2. Nesmith says:

    Discrimination(socially) is as natural as rain. Involve politics, and the rain becomes polluted. Gays should be able to live their lives without any issues. When issues are created, such as marriage and childbirth discrimination should be expected. A good example is the recent non tipper for the waitress, who just happened to be gay, was not tipped because of her “lifestyle”. Mean? yes. Discriminatory? no. Tried to sue, LOL. Discrimination has lost it’s “punch”, overused and worn out. Part of me is tolerant of homosexuals, part of me will never understand how “they” put the target on their backs(rainbow etc.) and complain when arrows come their way. Final point- Gay’s and marriage, weird. Gays and childbirth, how did they do that? P.S. There are also many heterosexuals who should not be married or have children. 🙂

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